Some problems in our lives

I've decided recently that some of our problems today (meaning people in general) is that they are afraid of being real. We're all sucked into a society where if you aren't perfect by their standards, then your screwed. I'm here to say today that they can go and eat their standards and I hope that they get constipated!!

Men looking at women and vice versa we all know what we are looking for. I think having our own personal standards are just fine. There are days that I am mad as can be at my husband, but it doesn't that I love him. Our society has mad it all too easy to disreguard vows that you make with one another. How hard is it really to know if you are truely ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life?! You do or you don't. Don't take the vows if you can't truely commit. And I'm not the type to judge people who just live together for a really long time or life. I respect that they don't want to make the legal commitment. But then again, doing so makes it even easier to just "go". What happened to people staying married, working things out, the respect and vows?

Body image. When you look at the TV or internet and what the higher end of society considers a plus size model, we're all screwed. A woman that is a size 8 or larger is considered plus sized! I would like to really use some profane words right now! When all you see are really tiny women and girls strutting around, it sets a standard into average women and girls minds of how we should look and be. I think it's great that people are starting to embrace themselves out there and not let society set their personal standards for beauty and body image. It's better to love yourself and have a cookie than to starve and think you look horrible and will never fit into those jeans.

Being yourself. Why is it so hard for people to be themselves? Why do they have to pretend to be someone else. What is so wrong with who you are. I'm not perfect or great by any standard. But I have always been myself and lived up to my words. I don't act any different around strangers than I do my own kids. Exception there for when I am having some PMS issues and I am a whole 'nother woman! :) Don't be fake people. You only tend to piss others off and send them packing.

I think what I am saying is to not listen to commercials, go by what you see and read in magazines, and be the perfect unique you. In my journey of rediscovering my self esteem, I have decided that society is really messed up. They want us to be completly uniformed to their standards and be their perfect little robots. Not me. Don't mess with my self esteem, don't mess with my given rights, and don't mess with my kids. We'll all get along in my book.

Take the key, throw it away

You ever feel like you've opened your mouth a bit much? I guess for me it's just being a little to open and honest with my husband. I believe in a marriage that there should be nothing hid and things very open. I mean there are circumstances that fine print is included. Over all things can be delt with and handled better being open.

There have been so many times in my life that I've sat back and kept my mouth shut. To this day, there are many silences I regret. Past is past and now is the future. I want to be free to open when the times appropriate and not worry. That is something most wish they could do. We all worry about reactions, feelings, and fear of regret. Don't care much for having that all the time.

In my life, there have been so few people that I can be open with, even if it can be brutal and blunt.Those people I am close to and they treat me the same way. Yes, being open and honest can hurt, but we need that. We learn from our pain and hopefully it goes in the right direction. Sometimes it can go sour for a while. Sometimes it opens a path we never expected to take.Eventually though, even if we don't want to admit it, it has been for the better.

I'm always on the path of learning when it is or isn't appropriate to speak up and be open. Family on my husbands side can be very inappropiate at time with their words. He tells me to do what everyone else does and to not let it bother me. But when I take their lead of voicing "their" type of openess, he get's all hell handed back to him from them. These instances, I'm clueless about. Hopefully there will be a balance between us, learning from each other, and we can all mind ourselves.

Back to the beginning, I think with my husband, it's not about me being overly open or not open at all. I think I need to get rid of the padlock and key. I'm investing in a heavy duty, quality zipper for my mouth. So I can have it partially open, completly closed, or completly open. I won't need to worry about silence anymore. Even with zipper being there, I can still dish it out, just a little bit more quietly.